Wednesday, September 16, 2009

friendship

...it's an interesting thing isn't it?
There are so many types of friends:
work friends
school friends
sort-of friends
and real friends.
Work friends are inevitable - I mean really, most people spend more time with co-workers than family.
school friends are convenient - who doesn't want the guarnatee of having someone sit next to them in class?
sort-of friends - these are the people you hang out with out of obligation. or maybe just because you only like them sort-of. or the people you know that are friends-of-a-mutual-friend so you see each other on random occassions.
Real friends. Now these are hard to come by. These are the ones you talk to more than once a week. and because you WANT to - not because you feel like you should. These are the ones that bring you diet coke or a chocolate shake (depending on the day and mood). these are the ones that you call when you are LIVID about something, in SHOCK about something, just heard JUICY gossip, or just need to chat.
Is it just me, or is it very difficult to move up in this chain?
There are people in my life that became my friends because of work or school, and yet - no matter what either person tries, it seems to stay that way.
There are people in my life that are sort-of friends that just can't seem to make it to the Real Friend category.
And yet...it is SO easy for someone to slip down this ladder.
It's so interesting to me how life changes like that.
There are people in my life that I have known for 2 or 3 years, and yet I consider them Real Friends.
And yet, there are people in my life that I have known for 10 or 15 years that are just sort-of friends-through-a-friend.
Now obviously, if I wanted that "sort-of" to become something deeper, it was my responsibility to do so.
And don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining about any of this.
I've just had some interesting realizations the last few months about friendship and what it's really about so I thought I'd share some thoughts rather than just letting them swim around in my head...

9 comments:

Tyler & Katy said...

Megan, let me just say Amen! I completely understand what you are talking about. Sometimes I wish I had REAL friends but then I realize WHY I don't have those friend anymore...does that make any sense...okay now that being said...MOVE CLOSER SO WE CAN BE REAL FRIENDS!!! haha...well we better be friends already...I married your brother...

The Emerys said...

Oh I so better be in the real friends category even know that it took 6 years of graduating from highschool to get there. Ha ha and like you leave a comment and freakin 4:30 in the morning! Oh that is so freakin early.

Paul~Melissa said...

So true!

McCall said...

just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming, swimming, swimming. ha. that song came to my head when i read the last sentence...so i had to sing it to you.

amber said...

Sis I am so glad that we are real friends and not just friends because we're sisters. It's interesting to me how work friends and family seem to be the real friends..maybe friendship has to be forced upon us and not just there..who knows. I have many thoughts on this topic. I'm just glad that your my work friend, sister friend, and best friend.

The Gruwells said...

okay... so i don't talk to you every day, i don't bring you shakes, when we talk we TOTALLY gossip... hummmm.... i need to move back... nuff said.
Love you, and you are my truest of true friends! I love ya!

The Gruwells said...

just in case you didn't notice from it being mentioned twice in one sentence... i love ya!
I am an idiot!

Tyler and Megan said...

SO thought provoking you are. That sounded like Yoda. I think you are right...I have definitely been able to point out each and every one of those categories after you mentioned them. I think you are a real friend. Maybe its just me but either way...I love you. We must see you soon...and I think we should plan a trip to Oregon together! Yeah? LOVE

Kaitlyn Flanagan said...

I at least hope that you and I are "friends like that"